I used to, when I was young. I didn't like seeing her, knowing who she was, and that she'd never speak to me. Now I know how hard that must have been for her. I grew up a lot after I left home. I was lucky, really. My adoptive father was a really good person.
[A little more softly] I'm sorry that you lost your mother.
cw: abortion/reproductive choices (futuristic)/absent parent/abandonment
[A little more softly] I'm sorry that you lost your mother.